We all grow with the dream of having our love beside us. On entering college, we consider ourselves a hero/heroine. After a successful date, we become boyfriend/girlfriend. This is a moment of joy for us. “Yes” becomes the most important word of our life, and to our surprise days become shorter by spending time together. We continue with the relationship, hardly thinking wrong/right. We have a distinct image of our partner, and we keep on thinking that our first date is the last, and the love will go forever. Please note, love is like a roller coaster ride with many ups and downs. It is like a never-ending adventure with several feelings. We want our partner to stick to us, and we strongly feel that our world is our love. We all know it’s tough to balance love and college, as each took so much effort to get in. If romance gets the extra time, it hampers college and vice-versa.
To make it easier, I have 11 ways to balance your college and love life perfectly.
1.Study comes first
Try to schedule your studies without hampering it. Love is a part of life, but a career makes our identity.
Always remember, For Boys – Without a stable career, no girl is going to be with you. Girls need stability to rely upon.
For Girls – Without your career, later in life, you will face issues like low self-esteem, dependency on the partner, less financial power, and many more.
Harsh-truth:- Love issues should not come in between your studies.
2.Communicate well
After you have studied well, it’s time for love. Communication plays a vital role in any relationship. You can’t let the relationship thrive without communication. To communicate with your loved one, fix a proper time.
3.Schedule a routine
As our time is limited, and we need to give time to everything in our lives, create a schedule. We do the same for communicating well. Either call on a fixed time or keep the talk short. If you enjoy talking for long hours, finish your studies before the stipulated time. If you are busy with your assignments, drop a message, and call later. In the starting, it might seem a bit difficult, but gradually you will get along with the routine.
4.Plan an outing
Plan an outing after the studies. You can’t keep on studying all the time. For refreshment, you can plan a trip.
5.Socialization
Friends are pacifiers and much needed for our life. We need to balance our friends and our love. Be mindful of what you speak. There can be a time when you hurt one for the other. You can also include your partner in your friend circle if comfortable.
6.Bring to games
Games are an essential part of our college life. Cultural and sports activities are crucial for our personality development. Instead of skipping one for the other, try to balance between the two. Either bring your partner to the game or participate together(if in the same college). It has been rightly said that “couples who play together stay together.”
7.Decide the priority
Try to prioritize. There can be situations when your partner gets stuck in an unfavourable situation, and you have your studies too. In such a case, decide the priority. Choose the most important one first, never forget the other.
8.Party together
If possible and permitted, you can party together. It brings you a step up in a relationship. Partying together makes one happy and satisfied. You explore another version of your partner.
9.Exam time
Exam fever is what we all have during exams. At this time, be wise. As I told, stick to the schedule, avoid late-night chatting, avoid arguments. Keep nothing in your mind except studies and health. Eat, Study, Sleep repeat. Take enough sleep. Don’t forget to revise. Check on your loved one in breaks. Never mess with the routine.
10.Avoid unnecessary clashes
Try to keep in mind that nothing lasts forever, and the only way you can keep your mind cool during exams is by avoiding conflicts. Try to understand each other well enough so that you don’t need to fight during the exam. Fights are inevitable in a relationship, but what you can do is to postpone it for some time.
11.Focus
You cannot have two focuses at the same time. Decide your priority and have a focus on that. Don’t let one suffer because of the other.
As I said, love is a roller coaster ride with manifold feelings to experience. Similarly, college is a beautiful part of our life. You get exposure to the world, learn so many practical things. You handle your problems alone and take countless decisions every day. Both love and studies have great significance in our life. Once you learn to balance, it feels like achieving a milestone. At the end of college, you will have both a degree and a partner.
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I enjoyed reading this! It brought me back to some good memories in university! I found my first love when I was a student. He had already graduated, but I remember being in one class and over hearing two young men talking about dating. One of them said, ‘No, my father said concentrate on your studies first then find love.’ Love is a difficult balance to have when at college. Your tips make a lot of sense and will be very helpful for anyone in this situation. Thanks Aditi!
Trace | ShopTheAi.com
Awww, thanks for such a lovely comment Trace! Yeah, balancing both is very difficult during college days. But once you have a balance, life is all set in this aspect. We have always heard saying like, “Love is something which should happen after college”. But love is spontaneous. You can’t wait for college to finish for falling in love. Once you have the balance, things flow in parallel.
Great priotiziation tips and how to efficiently make it all work