Egotists, as we all know, are absorbed in themselves. Absorbed to an extent where there is no room for other. “I” rules their mind and everything is about me and myself. Giving oneself importance is very necessary, but forcing that importance on others not only makes you unbearable but also drains your own energy. If “I” dominates your life, look how these activities can drain your energy.
1. Constant attention seeker
We all want attention. Nobody wants to feel unwanted, but craving constant attention is not good. The conversation has just begun and you started boasting. You can boast of anything pet, academics, dresses, relationship or whatever you think can give you attention. You always want to be in the limelight. If you got some attention, you are happy else you end up thinking “why not me?”, “where is the problem?” etc. Being consumed in these thoughts isn’t draining your energy? These thoughts are monster as they keep you engrossed all the time in a world where these attentions are temporary.
2. Controlling others
As your life revolves around yourself, it becomes difficult for you to be in someone else’s control. You consider yourself supreme and this fixed ideology governs your thoughts. It feel restless if you are unable to control others. You continuously make efforts on ways to dominate. Every day you want to prove you are intelligent enough to rule others.
3. Jealousy within
As you see others progressing, the feeling of jealousy creeps in. It makes you develop an unhealthy competitive nature. You want to be the best, want to lead, want to look the best, and want to excel in all fields of your life. There will be ample reasons for you to be jealous. Jealously is a slow poison which feeds on you till the moment it makes you deserted. Being jealous you will try all means to tarnish your competitor’s image.
4. Play the blame game
The notion of supremacy controls your thoughts. Every time you are on the verge of losing an argument, you start blaming the other. The process of blaming is always accompanied by a quarrel in turn as people hardly accept being wrong. Egotist attitude in you can’t let things go and the vicious cycle continues. The side effects are betrayal, frustration, heartbreak, anger, grief etc. all having negative consequences on you. The blame game will eventually solve no problem; in turn will put you in more such situations where your heart will feel heavy. Throwing excuses, allegations become inevitable in the heat of the moment. The battle is no doubt nerve-racking.
If you have observed changes in yourself which shows ego is dominating your life. Please keep a check or else you might drain your energy into something which is not real life.
You don’t need to boast to be noticed if you are good enough you would be spotted. Seeking attention, dominating others, developing jealously within and playing the blame game will make you perturbed about yourself. You are on earth to spread love and happiness, direct your energy in that. Life is much beautiful with acceptance of different people around you.
You have immense energy in you. Why not invest in something productive which can make you admired? Why live a life full of resentment when the choice is in your hand?