Every couple dreams of having a baby in their arms. After marriage, the one question you are tired of hearing is, “When are you giving us the good news.” This good news is very good for the couple, but life is not a bed of roses. We are full of emotions, and being emotionally overwhelmed, we sometimes make unwise decisions. Our decisions impact our lives. After marriage, we think, “wow, we are married, and now the next step is to have a baby.” Before having a baby, look for these in a relationship.
1.Longetivity of the relationship
Look for the duration of the relationship. Remember, a person will always remain good is the wrong concept if you have not spent a considerable time (in years) with the person. People fake it to make it. Give time to your relationship at least a year. In these years, see if your partner is loyal, caring, and protective. After becoming a parent, it becomes difficult to dissolve the marriage.
2.Relationship strength
In years to follow, one should develop a deep and stronger relationship with the partner. Try to know each other well so that the other finds peace and profound happiness in the presence. Avoid misunderstandings, and offer much needed emotional support when required. When consumed by anxiety, it is the partner who helps you in getting out of it. If you have a strong bonding, it is easy to be a plan a baby.
3.Mutual agreement
Pregnancy involves two individuals, with a mutual decision of expanding the family by two feet. When the partner mutually agrees to take responsibility, it is a happy pregnancy, but when there is any disagreement, respect the partner for having a different opinion on planning. At this point, have a good mutual understanding, support your partner in their decision. Respect and give sufficient time. Pregnancy is the best when there is no external pressure.
4.Responsibility
Baby is a responsibility. You have to make sure that you both can take responsibility happily. Managing a baby requires the scheduling of tasks.
Partners need to talk about it clearly to avoid any mess.
5.Frequency of arguments
Be watchful of your frequency of arguments. Parent’s fights have a behavioral impact on their child. It creates a stressful environment, snatching the beautiful childhood of the kid. We always think it is we who are fighting, and the child has neither the involvement nor is the subject of the conflict, so it will not impact the child. But research shows that the children are badly affected by their parent’s fight. It affects their mental health. They tend to be quieter and absorbed in their thoughts. If planning for a baby, see after the arguments and try to reduce it. Make your relationship strong enough to handle conflicts maturely.
6.Understanding in a relationship
Check the understanding. If you people are very understanding, it’s a green signal. If you people lack it, please wait. Communicate well, develop understanding, then go ahead with the baby planning.
7.Compatibility in a relationship
The couple should be compatible if planning a baby. How well you gel with each other takes the relationship to another level. Compatibility makes you feel secure and happy. If you and your partner have almost the same taste, same hobbies, same interests you enjoy each other’s company, it makes it easier to get along. For that, I would say that it is easier to walk on a smooth road or a road with fewer potholes than the one with huge potholes. If you get along well, plan for the baby, else look to fix your compatibility.
8.Financial stability
When bringing a new life, you should have financial stability. Pregnancy involves lots of expenses before and after. If you can manage all without being overburdened, then definitely yes, it is the right time to plan. Else make yourself financially stable.
9.Adjustments in a relationship
Pregnancy is beautiful if the couples adjust well. The entire pregnancy constitutes random changes in the personality. Be more loving to the partner embracing the ups and the downs together.
10.Trust in a relationship
See how well you people trust each other. The more the trust, the less the anxiety. If you feel comfortable sharing your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, etc. nothing, can stop you from having a happy life.
11.Physical fitness
The entire pregnancy comprises physical highs and lows. Your body feels good and healthy, and on the same day, it leaves you low and tired. For both the would-be parents, you should be physically fit. You can delay your planning for a short while, come back in the form, and here you go for the most beautiful experience of your life. Never take it casually. Think like when you build your house, you make a strong base. You use high-quality cement, sand, stones, paint, etc. Right? Why do you do so? Because you are going to stay in it. The pillars, the foundation needs to be very strong. Likewise, you are going to be the home for your child. That requires you to be healthy. It becomes the duty of the couple to look for the right diet and exercise. Have proper rest and cultivate happiness.
12.Mental fitness
Stress is the spoiler. Your body performs the best when the brain performs the best. Try to reduce the stress level, look for happiness within you, expect little or nothing from people around you.
13.Adjusting the differences
There can be cultural differences, dietary differences, regional differences, etc. between the couple. You should plan on how to adjust the differences to raise the baby without being troubled.
You must be thinking, every day there are so many births, so many parents. Yet, there is an entire list of guidelines for just having a baby. See, I will tell you there are numerous problems on this earth, and each one of us faces so many. When you return home after a tiring day, the home should be a paradise. But if the house has lots of problems, and you are struggling each day. It is not wise to have a baby. Marriage is easy for most. Almost everyone gets a partner but is that partner fit for you is the question of many. Domestic violence, an abusive relationship, troubled marriage, a rise in divorces, dowry, depression, loneliness, etc are some of the problems married couples face.
You can’t pour out of an empty glass. Look for completeness in you, see if it is the right decision to have a baby. We all know how difficult life (in terms of mental fitness) will be in the coming ages seeing the present scenario. Technology has made our life easy, but still, we have problems.
Kids grow up happily when there is less stress in the family. Practically no stress is not possible. There are external factors that contribute to stress. But if there is a harmonious relation between couples parenting becomes a joy.
I wish all the expecting parents happy parenting. Enjoy each day of pregnancy. Sending my good wishes.
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