Striking bright colors in the sky making its way to the earth full of warmth and with a lovely message of hope, faith, and life is how our day starts. With a beautiful sunrise, the chirping of birds, fresh air, clear sky and most importantly a new day of our life. Each day is full of possibilities and happiness. When you are solely responsible for your activities, why is your day lacking in joy? What is making you anxious, jealous and sad?
The answer lies within you. It’s a Comparison. Every day you are comparing yourself with another person. Each day is accompanied by a thought of regret. When restlessness is because of a neighbor having a big house, a good life partner, a perfect figure, a high paying job etc, and the feelings of jealousy is making you shake with rage. You are discontented with your life, tired and drained of energy and you know comparison is your enemy. Here is what you can do.
1. Calm yourself down
The first and foremost thing you can do is to calm yourself down. Relax, relax and relax. Things are fine. You are just over thinking. Drink a sip of water, walk a little and take a deep breath.
2. Look into your life
Sit and recollect pasts of your life. What you were and how far have you come. Count your achievements. Achievements are not trophies and medals. It’s your own growth. Your growth as a person.
3. Be grateful
Now thank almighty for being with you in your ups and downs. Be grateful to all around you who have helped you in some way or the other. In spite of cursing your life, have faith in yourself and move ahead.
4. Realize
Is your sibling’s life the same as yours, though you have the same parents? Are all the fruits sweet you bought yesterday? No, No, No! Then why is it so hard for you to understand things can be different in each of our lives. Realize this fact and be happy.
5. Respect
Now after you have realized the differences in each of our lives. It’s time to respect what you have, rather than comparing and sowing guilt.
6. Cherish
Cherish what you have. We often realize the value of something/ someone only after losing it. Before it’s too late, treasure them. See things will change wonderfully. There is always a probability of other’s being jealous of your life and see you were spoiling your days comparing yourself, your life, family, status, job, blah blah. Everything around you is special, treasure and cherish it.
7. Enjoy every moment
No matter how hard the day was, enjoy every moment. Live to the fullest. Each day the sun rises to give us hope and a chance to make our life better. Don’t be hard on yourself.
8. Love your life
Learn to love your life, accept things, think on improvising your situation, making days better but don’t Compare. Never do that. No two humans on this earth are the same. Even twins differ in activities if activities are the same may be their expressions are different. There will be some difference for sure. Surely, even identical twins have different fingerprints. When nothing in this world is cent percent the same, how can we compare? And why the hell we should compare? Each of us loves our mental peace, don’t compromise with it. Stop comparing and start loving your life.
It is rightly said, “Comparison steals joy.” But never forget comparison is an activity and we know very well only we are responsible for our activities. It is you who is devoiding yourself of joy and not the other person’s salary, job, home, perfect body figure etc… Enjoy today, celebrate moments. Focus on what you have and what you can do, don’t worry about things you can’t change. Life is beautiful to live every moment free of guilt and sorrow.
Comparison is one of my biggest enemies! Thanks for sharing your advice 🙂
Thank you so much.
Very well written article.This one helpful to me. Thank you for your kind suggestions.
Thank you..Glad to know it helped.
Good post. You will never win when you compare yourself to others, so why even bother. Thanks for reminding us of that!
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Thank you so much..Glad you liked it.
Welcome back Aditi – and this is such a beautiful read – thank you for sharing your wisdom
Thank you so much Shantanu for this lovely comment and support..
My absolute pleasure
You make some great points here. It is so important to turn our focus around, recalling the many reasons we have to be grateful for our own lives rather than searching for happiness in how we measure up to those around us. We’re all on our own individual journey and that’s okay!
Thank you so much. Yes we all have our own individual journey and we should enjoy every bit of it.
I love the message of this post. I agree, in our day and age so many of us are constantly bombarded with other people’s lives that it’s really easy to fall into the comparison game. Great points to focus on. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for reading and adding your valuable comment. Glad, you liked it.
Being a blogger it is hard not to compare yourself with others. Lately I have started a gratitude journal and it has helped me so much.
Yes, we all face that. Gratitude journal is always a good idea. Good to know it helped. Thanks for reading.
This is such a wonderful post!! Thanks for sharing this 😍
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Thoughtful insight. Its true it is a path that is eay to go down, but hard to steer away from. It is something I neex to stop doing for sure. Good post.
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I hate to say it, but comparison is something I really struggle with. I’ve been working on it, and your tips will really help! Thank you.
Glad to know it helped you Sarah. Thanks for reading 🙂
I really needed to read this! Thank you for sharing.
My pleasure 🙂
6&7 resonate so deeply as I try to cherish every moment and be grateful for every moment. I always tell myself that this moment in time only occurs once and that’s it- it’s gone! So I try to make beautiful memories. Thank you for this wonderful post. It’s very inspiring.
Thanks a lot Lia!! Making memories and reliving them again is beautiful.